People I admire but havent met them

 I have found myself getting influenced a lot. By movies, books, people, especially those that I dont know personally or first hand. So I thought, why not build a list. Because I love making lists.

So, here it goes.

1. Brad Pitt - Arguably the most handsome looking individual that I have seen in my lifetime. I find him extremely likeable and suave. Every time the camera pans into him, every line, every gestures he makes is just magical. He might as well be my favorite actor.
2. Robin Williams - You have to love the range this guy possesses as an actor. But somehow, comedy came naturally to him. If my life would be a movie, I would want Robin Williams to play me. With the only twist that I would also want to end the way he did.
3. Jagjit Singh - The man with a voice that touches my soul. His songs have given me words to break down my emotions when I couldnt do it myself. I regret not attending his concert when I had a chance. Maybe in my next life.
4. Katherine Heigl - She is my first Hollywood crush.
5. Bill Cosby
6. Irfan Khan
7. Biswa Kalyan Rath - I can listen to his jokes again and again and still find them funny. I am glad Ruhaan finds him funny too.

Dr. K's perspective on why someone is overwhelmed and my own two cents.

First things first, I am a great admirer and almost a a great fan of Dr. K. His YouTube videos are eye opening and provide a window into my mind and sometimes my soul.  

Now to his quote : it's not simply the sum of problems but rather a disparity between chosen ("active") and unchosen ("passive") challenges.

How I see it in my head:

As you can see, passive challenges makes you feel lose control and hence it positively adds to the feeling of being overwhelmed.

On the other hand, active challenges, even those that are not related to the actual problem at hand, will give you a sense of control, reducing the sense of feeling overwhelmed.

And I have seen that happening with me. Since my life has way more passive challenges (even though, I could have turned them into active ones, by making certain choices at the right time), if I can distance myself and go make some tea or clean the house, I do feel better. Of course, it does absolutely nothing to the problem itself. It is still there, staring down on me, but I don't feel that anxious or panicked.

As all good things, I am able to find a fault with this approach too. I think this behaviour further reinforces my acts of procrastination. Over time, I tend to move more and more active challenges into the passive ones. Only because, I couldn't finish them in the first place. And why once might ask, it was because I was overwhelmed.

Now, I don't think this is not a good insight. It absolutely is. I just want to take a moment to remind myself that this approach needs to be followed up with the act of persistence and making sure each active challenge logically concludes and doesn't creep back into the pile of unfinished ones which later on become passive ones.